Spiritual understanding really dawns once we are able to appreciate that sacrifice is not martyrdom. Sacrifice is not about violence, punishment or suffering, it is not a display of pretended or exaggerated hurt to obtain sympathy. It is not about crucifying yourself over and over. It can entail enduring difficulties, embracing challenges and letting go of what you want. Sacrifice arises from loving and embracing all life. It’s as if you want to let go so deeply to know the ONE, to know the bliss and goodness that flows through everything.
Sacrifice is the ability to let go of “my, mine and I” agendas. Giving up the little ‘I’ is the true meaning of sacrifice. It means sublimating every thought, word and deed as an offering to Love and Truth. It is about saturating all acts with Divine intent. This is the most wondrous spiritual practice to cultivate selfless love. Love gives for ever and ever, it never requires anything in return. Selfless unconditional love thrives on sacrifice and renunciation.
When you sincerely investigate the question, “Who am I”, you will find that everyone is included in ‘I’, and your love will expand limitlessly. The ego resists sacrifice with its desires, fears and need for control. True sacrifice is love, it reveals tremendous power. The power to heal, to overcome, to transform and to bring about great change.
Sacrifice Leads to Fulfillment
Most people don’t understand that through sacrifice you learn resilience and discover what you are truly capable of. Sacrifice nourishes our sense of responsibility to ourselves, our children, our world. It makes us whole, reveals the machinations of the laws of creation. Sacrifice illuminates the willingness to become all that you can be and are. It leads to a fulfilled and contented life.
The true secret of joy lies in sacrifice. In the Vedas, sacrifice has been declared to be the only means of achieving liberation. Understanding that there is a time to give and a time to receive is at the heart of sacrifice. When we let go of all that we believe about ourselves, our limitations, our long cherished hopes, our need to be in charge, our comfort, we reveal all that is good and Godly about humanity.
Parents make sacrifices all the time and the impact this has on children is enormous. The earth is a perfect example of sacrifice, constantly giving of itself to nurture and nourish us. Can you sacrifice some of your attachments, your desires, your identity, your greed, your arrogance, your stubbornness, your limitations, your choices, your plans? If you can then we can heal our world.
I heard myself say to the attendees of the most recent Heart of Understanding 8 Day LiberatingTouch Class in Portugal, “I am letting go of time, all my fear and limitations in relation to time.” It is a tall order and if i hadn’t been working with “project time” since 2002, i would find this an impossible task. In this instance, i define “Letting go” as the end of self-inflicted incarceration and the beginning of emancipation.
Changing the way our thinking
“revolves” around time
On the 2nd of June 2013, I began a “time project” in the Liberating Conversations Facebook group to help me and anyone else that may be interested in changing the way we think about time. It seems fitting to share this part of the exploration. Time affects us on so many levels. In the West we have a linear relationship with time; beginning, middle, and end. Many ancient cultures speak of time as parallel or spiraling movements, in which the past, present and future, interconnect through different dimensions and layers of consciousness. In this blog i focus on how we can meet the many pressures of time with spiritual intelligence and how this intelligence, along with a few LiberatingTouch® applications, enable us to understand our relationship with time and so empower us.
The big aha came when I realised that one of my problems was not with time, but with making choices. I did not want to choose. I wanted to do it all. Once I started making very conscious choices, trusting my choices and intuition, something magical happened; I experienced God and Time as one.
It became clear that time is nature’s flow, giving us opportunities to stand, walk, dance lie down, sit, do the dishes, study, work, play, eat, dream… we must choose. We have to choose. If the choice arises from our intuition and we trust these messages from the SELF (God), then how we experience time is vastly different from when our choices emerge from fear.
It is not my job to speed time up, or slow it down, but to simply surf its waves as I do my thing – as I breathe.
Time is finite and infinite. Finite in material terms, but infinite from the perspective of the eternal SELF. It may seem like a paradox, but when we are able to embrace both, the finite and the infinite, we discover the freedom to breathe with time.
A Simple Exercise
Rest your hands anywhere on your body and simply allow this thought to exist –“Time is my friend” and exhale and inhale and exhale and then allow the thought – “Opening to a timeless breath”. And that’s it – Yes really, that’s it. Love and timelessness.
Thinking differently about time – “Revolutionary” thinking…
Hold your THUMB (either side) for a couple minutes or less while articulating the following question gently. “What if I could release all my anxiety about not having enough time?”
Hold INDEX finger (either side) for a couple minutes or so while articulating the following question gently. “What if I was no longer afraid of wasting time?”
Hold MIDDLE finger (either side for a couple minutes or so while articulating the following question gently. “What if I could be let go of all my frustration in relation to the time it takes to complete my chores?”
Hold RING finger (either side) for a couple minutes or so while articulating the following question gently. “What if I could acknowledge all my grief in relation to lost time?”
Hold LITTLE finger (either side) for a couple minutes or so while articulating the following question gently. “What if I could know that time is my friend and I can rest and be productive all at once?”
Here is another sequence to help all of us that struggle with that sense of urgency. Was reminded about this aspect of time by the news of the death of a friend…
Hold your THUMB (either side) for a couple minutes or less while articulating the following question gently. “What if I could release all my anxiety about not getting it all or any of it done?”
Hold INDEX finger (either side) for a couple minutes or so while articulating the following question gently. “What if I could release all my fears and inadequacies and open to trust?”
Hold MIDDLE finger (either side for a couple minutes or so while articulating the following question gently. “What if I could be let go of all my frustration and embrace my limitations?”
Hold RING finger (either side) for a couple minutes or so while articulating the following question gently. “What if I could free all my unfulfilled dreams and celebrate the time i spent dreaming?”
Hold LITTLE finger (either side) for a couple minutes or so while articulating the following question gently. “What if i run out of time and it is ok?”
Another sequence for harmonising the way we experience time:
Place your hands on either side of the pubic bone in the groin (frontal pelvic) area, inhale and exhale a few times, and repeat the phrase below. Place your hands the waistline, inhale and exhale a few times, and repeat the phrase below. Place your hands on the upper chest, inhale and exhale a few times, and repeat the phrase below.
Breathing in light fills this body, I trust this body. Breathing out I smile; I trust the goodness in this mind. Breathing in I dwell in this moment, I trust the power in this heart. Breathing out, I open to the sweetness of trust flowing through this life.
For those of you that have a connection to God, the phrases below may be more powerful:
Breathing in light fills this body, God permeates this body Breathing out I smile, I trust God saturating my thinking Breathing in I dwell in this moment, God residing in this Heart Breathing out, I open to the sweetness of trust.
Another Variation: Place your hands on either side of the pubic bone in the groin (frontal pelvic) area, inhale and exhale a few times, and repeat the phrases below. Place your hands the waistline, inhale and exhale a few times, and repeat the phrases below. Place your hands on the upper chest, inhale and exhale a few times, and repeat the phrases below:
Breathing in, light fills this body, I am light Breathing out, I smile, I envisage light bathing my thinking Breathing in, I dwell in this moment, Time is my friend Breathing out, I open to the sweetness of Love flowing through this life
Some Useful Inquiry:
When thinking about your use time, who does your thinking serve? Truth and Love or Fear and Control
How do your words and inner thoughts about time make you
feel? Patient and Understanding or Guilty and Shameful
When immersed in activity or when you have deadline to meet,
do you remember to exhale?
Would you like your thoughts, words or actions to be in alignment (harmony) with Love and Truth?
While investigating my many “scarcity time” projects with LiberatingTouch®, I became aware that the notion that everything is speeding up or slowing down is just a notion and like all notions they pass. I am finding it easier to meet those internal pressures that emerge from the fear of wasting time with peace. I now know, experimentally, that the timing of everything in life is impeccable.
When caught up in time issues it helps to remember – we are not victims; we are powerful beyond measure. Even if we forget this, even if circumstance, memory, thoughts keep us replaying the roles of a victim we can always wake up from this trance of material identification; we can reconnect to the Truth. We can shine the light of awareness, dispelling the darkness of our fears and illuminating the infinite power of the Heart. We can shake off the lies of powerlessness like a lion shakes his mane and roar with the certainty that we are limitless, Timeless, Eternal LOVE.
Hope you enjoyed this blog, with eternal love and gratitude, Ranjana
*The Facebook group Liberating Conversations has been created for those of you that are interested in relaxing (healing) the body, emancipating (purifying) the mind, awakening (knowing) constant integrated awareness and aligning (merging) with Love and Truth. Its focus is to share ways to liberate consciousness and experience the dynamic alchemy of LiberatingTouch®.
For those of you who are new to LiberatingTouch®, this is a great place to meet facilitators, ask questions, discover pathways to healing and enter into enlightening discussions. We invite you to join us on this greatest of adventures of getting to know (realise) the Self.
There are four aspects/concepts of Spiritual Intelligence that bring about enormous transformation. These are: the Recognition of Potential, the ability to Reclaim Power, the imperative to Choose Purity and Know Presence.
At any given moment in time or space, it is important to recognise the potential present, even if it is not apparent. So, you may be faced with a challenge that stretches your coping mechanisms to the max. If you can recognise that here is an opportunity for growth and expansion, or the opportunity to reveal hidden powers of resilience or that the situation is about uncreating the old and creating something positive. Then you recognise the potential and feel supported by this recognition.
The power to choose your state of mind and emotions, has a huge impact on the way you express and act. It also dictates how you experience life. An example here would be, perhaps you give away your power to self-doubt, fear, unhelpful criticism, impatience and shame. You need to reclaim that power and discover trust, love, encouragement, patience and integrity.
This is an ongoing process of active awareness, whereby, you commit to honesty and integrity in all interactions. You are attentive to your environment, your community, your time and your internal chatter. You watch out for triggers that seemingly force you to react with anger instead of responding with calm confidence. This entails patience.
Knowing that you are not limited to the confines of your body and mind allows you to discover solutions and pathways that are liberating. Once you know that time and space are containers of consciousness and that they are more fluid than you can imagine, you begin to explore the world around you with loving curiosity. You meld inspiration and practical know-how with discernment.
Not Enough Time
Now let’s apply these four principles in the most basic way to one of the most common challenges of today; “Not enough time”. This is something Eddie and I hear a lot. Repeated often enough it becomes a limiting belief and a mega hurdle to growth. Argue for your limitations and they are yours. So you feel pressured, that you don’t have enough time, have not been able to priortise, have a growing to do list and your desires are not being acknowledged let alone fulfilled and you believe that you are getting nowhere.
Recognise Potential: Notice the time that you have now, use it, brush your teeth, enjoy breakfast, rest, drink some water, call a friend, do just one thing and open to the possibility that it could be enough. It is enough.
Reclaim Power: Decide to trust, you make a difference by being here, by showing up, by smiling, by listening, by paying attention and being compassionate.
Choose Purity: Notice when and how you get into a flap, exhale, let go, inhale, receive the life force available to you in the breath. Unload the grime of criticism and open to the positive action that you can take now.
Know Presence: When you have let go of the thought that you and your efforts are going nowhere, you are Now Here. Anything is possible. Your focus can effortlessly shift from what you have not done to what you have done and what you are doing. You can appreciate the mystery of the unknown working through your life. You bring miracles into existence because your thoughts and actions arise from clarity, intuition and Love.
What would happen in your life if you woke up in the morning with the thought, “I have enough time”, “time is my friend”, “anything is possible is today”, “time is on my side”, “I have time”, “whatever needs to get done will be, everything else can wait”, “I am free, I collaborate with time”?
Every moment matters (Know Potential), every breath counts (Reclaim Power), every smile makes the universe sing (Choose Purity). You choose (Know Presence).
with O = Openness (Clarity, Potential, Possibility)
and W = Wonder (Awe, Humility, Passion, Curiosity)
Do you make unrealistic demands of yourself and your time? I know I do. Having said that, i now have the good sense to appreciate the craziness of my ever growing to do lists with humour and even better sense to tear them up, often. Just so that i can make a new one which may be a little bit more realistic (not!!).
I suddenly slipped effortlessly into FLOW … The place of balance, of going with the flow, of trusting doing, trusting being, trusting the flow that embraced both
Doing ————–FLOWING————– Being
Imagine living a life of graceful elegance of effortless FLOW
Ranjana’s Journal Entry from October 2012
Despite the habit of overburdening myself, I now engage more and more with FLOW. This has helped me discover patience, openness and space. When I experience patience as my reality I am filled with an extraordinary lightness and possibility. Intuitive flow aligns me with the Bliss of Doing, Flowing, and Being. Life makes me smile and my tears make me smile.
It is a wonderful thing to share a smile, to do so without any expectation of reciprocation, without any need to please or be pleasant, without pretense, without hiding, without fear. This is effortless being, flowing, doing…. smiling…. What stops me or you experiencing the state of flow? There are many answers, and they all have merit. In this blog, I want to bring your attention to TIME.
As part of my research for this blog, i reflected on films that have captured the public’s imagination. I discovered a common gripping element, “the race against time”. Imagine Matrix, Star Wars, Titanic, Avatar, and Lord of the Rings etc. without this riveting tension. What if we were no longer in a race against time? What if time flows as we flow and what if we can influence that flow with our awareness?
Our mentality (mind set) is so locked up in the limitations of time that I wonder if we have lost sight of timelessness, eternity, immortality, beauty…FLOW. I am not saying that we should ignore the constraints of time or somehow transcend the measurement of time – but perhaps we could entertain a little balance? Perhaps create a little space…space to remember the Eternal Infinite Constant. A little patience (willingness), openness (trust), emptiness (space) for FLOW: Focused –Loving — Omni (Omnipresent, Omnipotent, Omniscient) – Wisdom.
Here are some questions to ponder over:
Have you ever experienced a sense of flow in your life?
How do you know that you are in the flow?
Do you recognise when your life is not in flow?
What do you require to be in FLOW?
There are many LiberatingTouch Processes and Sequences to help you discover FLOW on your journey inwards and outwards, and help you express the Love, Truth and Presence that you are.
An integral aspect of cultivating spiritual intelligence is being able to recognise the habits and conditioned behaviour that rob you of your power. When you become aware of the ways in which you experience powerlessness you can take inspired conscientious action and reclaim your power and confidence. With the return of your power you discover your purpose.
We can begin by asking ourselves where we have given away our power. We can start by making a list of all the issues (challenges) we have. This will help us pinpoint the areas where we have given away our power. This can be difficult for some, as they are not used to being aware. So many are in denial about how they consistently sabotage healing, relationships, success, and opportunities for growth, and peace.
Here are some common examples of how we lose power:
Giving too much personal information to others when you don’t have to
Being excessively apologetic
Having excessive desires
Malice or hatred
Vows/decisions made to avoid suffering
Either reliving or blanking out memories
Shame and guilt
And and and…
Reclaiming power and recognising our purpose is what Eddie and I focus on during Regenerative LiberatingTouch®intensives and during the first four days of the Heart of Understanding Class. It is always a source of amazement for our clients and students when and how they experience subtle but empowering changes that come with awareness.
Without reclaiming your power it is hard to live life with or
As your power returns your purpose steadily clarifies. The
fact is you do not have one purpose; you have four purposes. Some are aware of
one, perhaps two but there are actually 4 main purposes that drive you, that
inspire you, which give you reason to live, grow, work, play and explore your
1. The Ultimate Purpose – Moksha (Liberation) – This is the
same for everyone, it is the heart’s desire to be free, to know (realise)
oneSELF (Truth) beyond all limitation.
2. The Spiritual Purpose – Artha (Meaning) – This is what
gives each individual meaning in life; it inspires you and fills you with Love.
3. The Mental-Emotional Purpose – Kama (Desire) – This is
your challenge it is related to your desires, to your passion and to your
expression. When you are in harmony with this you find peace.
4. The Material Purpose – Dharma (Duty) – This is what you
have come to manifest, create, and action. When you are in alignment with this
you experience a deep satisfaction that comes with Self-Responsibility.
And here is the twist, you need to reclaim your power to realise your purpose and once you realise your purpose your life is filled with power.
In today’s world there seem to be 4 notable genres of spirituality. They all have their place and it is useful to explore these to appreciate how they nourish our personal growth and developing spiritual intelligence. These four approaches are outlined below in brief. Of course, they are not so cut and dried and there are many interwoven links. We talk about these genres, their interconnections and their effect on a growing spiritual world in greater detail during our Heart of Understanding 8 Day LiberatingTouch Class.
spirituality is part of a growing life-affirming genre – It is life loving and
joyous, there is almost a feeling that anything goes so long as one is focused
on compassion, kindness, positivity, sustainability and being present. This can
be a confusing blend of non-dualism and body celebration. For some this
approach lacks depth, accountability and does not always allow for the
complexity of life’s many experiences. There is an avoidance of discipline and commitment,
but there is a huge exploratory element which allows one to venture and
discover life outside the confines of certainty. This genre avoids using the
word God in describing its affiliation and prefers to use words like, Presence,
Grace, Source and similar terminology.
Tradition and Faith
traditional genre or the route of religion is when one consciously demonstrates
love for God or a Higher Power. It is often defined by a set of codified
practices or by adopting ancient observations, theology, or philosophy. Some of
these approaches have been passed down for generations. The merit in this genre
is the emphasis on community, having a value-based life, a life of service.
Each tradition has a set of laws that provide the seeker with an ethical life-honouring
framework to build upon. The issue with this genre is that over centuries
prejudice and misappropriation has tainted some of the original teachings. Much has been lost in translation, yet the
essence of these traditions continues to be beacons of light and wisdom for
inquiry based spiritual path shows itself in the growing cognitive therapeutic
approaches. This genre veers away from devotion. Its focus is understanding,
knowledge, mindfulness and self-awareness. Here the seeker actively engages in
deconstructing what they believe about themselves, the world they inhabit, so
that they can discover the Truth about themselves. It uses catch phrases like
oneness, existence, non-existence, and absolute. Its non-dualistic approach
although deeply compassionate and meditative is fairly cerebral and does not
always allow for the physical, emotional or the more “chaotic” expressions of
the spiritual seeker for example, the tears of yearning.
Integrative and Intuitive
spirituality relies on the seekers intuitive wisdom, the ability to explore,
study, experience and intuit how to build a direct relationship with God. It is
the uncertain route, lacking the support of tradition, the feel good of the
popular or the clarity of knowledge. This genre requires one to delve into all
areas of spirituality, philosophy, life, to explore Truth from an internal,
intuitive perspective and because it does not have the certainty of external
recognition it can be an unsettling path.
Here Love is the path and Truth is the destination. This path demands
the cultivation of patience (willingness to listen, devotion, tolerance and
constant integrated awareness) and purity (inquiry, discernment, disciplined
rigorous self-responsibility). Without these the seeker experiences confusion
Although these 4 genres demonstrate differences in their expression and methodology, they all share the recognition and reverence of Divinity; they all have at their core a compassionate heart. This unites them in Love and eventually the seeker whatever the path returns to Truth.
Most of us have some degree of physical intelligence, we feel hungry we eat, we feel thirsty we drink, we feel tired we rest and so on. But when we fall ill we require more than physical intelligence to heal. We rely on mental intelligence to make an informed decision that we are unwell. Emotional Intelligence helps us make choices about the healing route we are going to pursue. For example our mental intelligence will inform us of the importance of rest, but our emotional intelligence will permit us to fulfill this need or not. A good example of this is when someone feels guilty about taking rest and will therefore ignore all good reason to rest. So where does Spiritual Intelligence fit in?
We can develop a physical illness in order to carry out healing that has a spiritual component i.e. remembering our true nature. Understanding that Absolute Love powers our existence is enough to create a shift in awareness to bring about deep healing. Our dis-eases / discomforts / dis-harmonies can be caused by our negative thinking and fear driven emotions, which are not in alignment with Spiritual Intelligence.
In truth none of these intelligences function independently, however when each one of them is aligned with Spiritual Intelligence our lives become dynamic ripples of Loving Intelligence expressing deep Truth.
Over the years Eddie and I have encountered many projects, illnesses, challenges and disharmony, the most moment-defining in the healing process has been the understanding that arises when the correlation between their project (disharmony) and spiritual learning is acknowledged. Spiritual Intelligence is vital in healing, so why not in business, in education, in relationships? Cultivating (more accurately remembering) one’s Spiritual Intelligence is having the understanding that each one of us is not confined to space and time, we are fragments of infinite Love capable of great acts of inspiration and courage.
Danah Zohar coined the term “spiritual intelligence” and introduced the idea in 1997 in her book, “ReWiring the Corporate Brain.”
Danah Zohar defined 12 principles underlying spiritual intelligence:
Self-awareness: Knowing what I believe in and value, and what deeply motivates me.
Spontaneity: Living in and being responsive to the moment.
Being vision and value led: Acting from principles and deep beliefs, and living accordingly.
Holism: Seeing larger patterns, relationships, and connections; having a sense of belonging.
Compassion: Having the quality of “feeling-with” and deep empathy.
Celebration of diversity: Valuing other people for their differences, not despite them.
Field independence: Standing against the crowd and having one’s own convictions.
Humility: Having the sense of being a player in a larger drama, of one’s true place in the world.
Tendency to ask fundamental “Why?” questions: Needing to understand things and get to the bottom of them.
Ability to reframe: Standing back from a situation or problem and seeing the bigger picture or wider context.
Positive use of adversity: Learning and growing from mistakes, setbacks, and suffering.
Sense of vocation: Feeling called upon to serve, to give something back.
Robert Emmons defines spiritual intelligence as “the adaptive use of spiritual information to facilitate everyday problem solving and goal attainment.” He originally proposed 5 components of spiritual intelligence:
The capacity to transcend the physical and material.
The ability to experience heightened states of consciousness.
The ability to sanctify everyday experience.
The ability to utilize spiritual resources to solve problems.
The capacity to be virtuous.
Cindy Wigglesworth defines spiritual intelligence as “the ability to act with wisdom and compassion, while maintaining inner and outer peace, regardless of the circumstances.”
This knowledge is not new, but it has been ignored. When we disregard this spiritual (divine) intelligence we lose sight of what we are truly capable of. We believe that lasting healing solutions arise from drawing sustenance from this deep well of Infinite Compassionate Spiritual Intelligence.
Over the next few months we hope to share a few more insights on Spiritual Intelligence.