The Big Questions – Desire

I sit down to meditate, to commune with the SELF, and my mind wanders. I open my eyes. The play of shadows on the window sill, the sound of a motor in the distance. My senses draw me to the window and what lies beyond. My thoughts are no longer in the room with me, they are travelling on cloud wisps tinged with glittering twilight hues. An awareness of this makes me smile and sigh, I understand. Here I am, sitting down to rest in the great within, and there I am drawn to the world outside… to dreams and desires. It’s so easy to drift away from the great within.

I want, to not want, and that too is wanting. As I witness this play, I let go, I let myself want and be wanting. Can I shed the judgements of “should and have to”? Of course, I can, because I choose peace.

The mind and its many desires are often the main obstacle (interference) to liberation (Moksha – freedom from the cycle of birth and death) and Self-Realisation (union with the Self / God).

Where is God?

Angela, one of our LT Instructors asked us, “What do you say when a client asks, where is God?”

The fact is God (Eternal Unified Consciousness) is right next to you, in you, above you, around, as you, living in the heart of each and everything. THAT ONE is the pulse of Creation. It doesn’t matter what name you give to the all-encompassing omnipresent Consciousness of Love that emerges and merges in Truth, whether it is THAT, or No-thing, or The Dot, or Source, or Mother, or Spirit, or God… There is no place where God is not.

The real question is where are you? Has your mind exiled you from the Heart? From experiencing God? Have your desires and attachments (fear) blinded you to the awareness of THAT Presence of the Infinite ONE? Where are your desires taking you, towards or away from realising God?

In the context of desire. Every desire presents us with an opportunity to love. In the process of Loving, we experience God.


Desires are complicated things. We can have conflicting desires. Crazy desires. Sweet desires. Simple desires. If we get attached to them, we end up caught in the cycle of avoiding disappointment and seeking fulfilment. Desires take us on grand adventures. They reveal our limitations, our resilience, and our power.

When you know what you want, you can choose to accept your desires, release expectations and allow goodness to inspire and guide you. With this practical (LiberatingTouch) approach, we reconnect to the Source of our power and learn that the laws of creation require us to relinquish control, face our limitations, take responsibility. Yield, and trust.

I want it right now

It’s the impatience around desire that trips us up. The need for instant gratification. I know this is a painful cliché, “Good things come to those who wait”. In my life, this has rung true over and over again.

The journey or story of desire begins with ‘I want…’ This is followed by the grand adventure, the odyssey, the chase, the seeking and yearning, repeated over and over until there is understanding, wisdom, compassion, and finally detachment from which arises Self-fulfilment, Self-knowledge and freedom. It takes time, resilience, courage, love, and compassion to realise the Truth. Your desires are the reason you are here, they are the cause of your pleasure and pain. Desire is the grit that catalyses the making of a pearl in an oyster. I love desire without it I wouldn’t be here with you right now. I am constantly humbled by its lessons.

If this is the plane of desires and we have come to experience and fulfil desire, then knowing what you want will help you understand yourself and the reality you have created. This in turn will help you become conscious of your power and your ability to liberate the energy that has been invested in fear.

If only… I wish…

Regret is a challenging hurdle to navigate. Acceptance, letting go and forgiveness transform regret into wisdom.

If you don’t get what you want, you suffer; if you get what you don’t want, you suffer; even when you get exactly what you want, you still suffer because you can’t hold on to it forever. Your mind is your predicament. It wants to be free of change. Free of pain, free of the obligations of life and death. But change is a law, and no amount of pretending will alter that reality.

– Dan Millman

Memory and Desire

We are becoming increasingly aware that we are not always in control of our actions and reactions. Our desires and emotions can dominate our behaviour, actions and decisions. How many times have you heard someone say, ‘I couldn’t help myself; I could see that I wanted to do things differently…’, or, ‘I had no choice – if only I didn’t feel this way…’ How many times have you said it?

Have you distanced yourself from the infinite Love of the Heart by chasing the demands of the mind, demands which may well be arising from the past, from ancestral hand-me-downs or social conditioning? You may not even want something, but somehow you are driven to have it because of experiences stored in your memory.

Many people are unconscious (unaware) of their desires. These hidden wants, become invisible drivers, that then control their decisions and lives. By becoming aware of your desires, you enter into a place of power.


At its most potent and positive, desire arises from the innate yearning of all beings, to experience and express infinite unconditional love, for all things and situations. Through the many life experiences of the individual, these positive yearnings have been tarnished by untruths. Part of the journey in understanding desire is being able to discern the origins of one’s desires. Are the desires coming from an innate (divinely embedded) calling to Love, serve, and merge in Truth, or are they coming from social, ancestral, cultural, inherited, and behavioural conditioning? The latter can result in disappointment, fear, attachment, and separation. While the former, Divine desire, is born of Love’s longing to love it SELF.

Every desire has consequences. Denying your desires doesn’t make them go away. Being honest about your desires makes it easier to surrender them. It can be a bit of a journey through disappointment and elation, pain and pleasure. With LiberatingTouch you learn the lesson of desire is Surrender.

Donna’s Thoughts on DESIRE

Desires – To want or not to want? That is the question

The word “Desire” invokes so many feelings in me.

When I searched online about the word, ‘desire’, I came across this:

As a noun, it is a strong feeling of wanting to have something or wishing for something to happen

As a verb, it is to strongly wish for or want (something)

Dreams, Desires and Control

When I used to dream about things that I really wanted, I would hope that they would come true and I could have them. But in reality, I was let down.

Put it like this – when I was a child, I used to dream that things might be better, and I believed if I dared to dream, they would happen. Mostly, it did not happen. The things I would dream of were physical, emotional or material. I always wanted (desired) to be in a better place than my siblings. I wanted to leave home and be whisked away from my huge noisy, arguing family by a fairy-tale knight in shining armour. As I got older, I thought that there was no point in dreaming or desiring as they wouldn’t come true. I became cynical and untrusting. So, I tried to control my dreams and imagined that I wouldn’t get what I wanted (desired) and that way I didn’t fall prey to disappointment. This worked. Imagining not getting what I want worked, and it became a nice surprise when I got something.

It became about control.

‘what’s for you won’t go by you’

The saying ‘be careful what you ask for’ was part of our family’s vocabulary, or ‘what’s for you won’t go by you’, it’s my Mum’s Irish saying, that means whatever you are meant to have will be yours. So, it’s no wonder I was confused. I had so many limiting beliefs around desire or wanting anything! I wondered if I deserved it. If I did receive anything, would it be a disaster waiting to happen? Over the years, I learnt many things. Coming from a big family of 3 brothers and 3 sisters it was hard work to be heard or seen by my parents or family, my desires all seemed to be about escaping. I am a bit less selfish now. Free from the constraints of needing their approval and recognition, I can look back with some fondness on our good times – it wasn’t all bad.

Gosh, desiring is a tricky thing. I got to thinking about the useful things that desire can mean. A desire for a better world, free from poverty, less anger and stress. A longing to know God and wanting to share unconditional love. I continue to desire meditation, prayer, surrender and divine love for all things. 

The Guilt

When I was younger, I was forced to go to Catholic Sunday school and church or face the wrath of my Irish Mother. I was made to feel guilty by the priest about wanting anything. And it was why I tried to control my dreams and desires. For years afterwards, I didn’t want to connect to God. The guilt from the church made me feel that I didn’t deserve it. Now, I have a different understanding and am much more aware of what it means to “desire”.  

Where am I with desires now?

After many years of self-inquiry and study, I find myself in a better place about my wants and my needs. I know that finding God again helped me become more aware of my feelings!

My last LiberatingTouch detachment process*, strangely enough, was on desires. After 15 days of practising the infinity exercise, I wrote the letter and with that letter, I wrote some of my desires down. I enjoyed making a list of what I wanted. It felt so different from when I was younger. I found that I understood that I didn’t need to be attached to those desires. It felt like a great weight lifting off my shoulders. And anything could happen, I am open feeling elated.

I could let go of the thoughts that used to cause me anxiety and sleepless nights and become more peaceful and trusting. What will be, will be.

I hand all of my desires over to God and have trust in the Devine timing!  With immense Gratitude and knowledge that it’s ok to have desires because God knows the desires of my heart before I do. what it is I wanted. I receive it when the time is right. I have patience and trust in God.


Now, when I desire something, I connect to God and trust.  

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That is all for now. In the next blog, we will continue to explore desire. Message us, if you have a specific observation or question about desire. Thank you.

Blessings and love, Ranjana

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